We may hear someone say it’s going to turn out bad. The themed languaging around fear of failure may be about the wounding imprints that can potentially occur early on in one’s existence while on the journey of taking on a body and moving toward being born. It’s in these moments that we may begin to have compassion for this person and the storyline that lies deep within. Instead of following this individual – hook, line and sinker – into the negative trail of thinking and agreeing that it’s going to turn out bad, here’s a moment when we may step back and gain perspective on the larger stage and spectrum of life’s experiences. It’s not about being attached to whether this is accurate or not; what it is about is having compassion. It may not have been an easy journey for this person, and for this possibility, we have compassion. When we experience compassion for another person, we may feel tinges of compassion for ourselves and what we may have experienced early on in our existence, whether we have a sense of what may have happened to us, or not. Just holding wonderments about potential experiences have enormous healing properties. At other times, we may begin with compassion for ourselves which may trigger positive feelings within us of compassion for another. Compassion itself creates open spaces within us, and it may be that from this creative place, it’s all about one foot in front of the other.

Letting there be enough space for not knowing may come in the form of imagining being on the edge, not knowing what’s next, and not pinning it all down to make life all tidy and concrete. Pema Chodron says it this way: Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together and they fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, room for relief, for misery, for joy. (When Things Fall Apart, Pema Chodron)

When we live this way, there’s an openness to what may be in front of us in the next moment, but we don’t experience that moment until we’re in it. We stay on the path. We put one foot in front of the other and enter into the moment of our current experience – and remain in this moment fully. We may feel grief and so we grieve. And then, we may feel joy, so we allow ourselves to experience safe expressions of joy the fill us from head to toe. Whatever the present moment brings, we remain in it, staying the course. We may discover that open spaces may create wonderments inside of us of not having to know. As Pema says, a not knowing.

Blessings for the journey.

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