When we get triggered in the here and now by someone with whom we are in relationship, it means that we are feeling one or more negative feelings (i.e. mad, sad or afraid) in response to another person’s behavior and/or in response to our perception of another person’s behavior. Our perceptions originate early in life in response to our earliest relationships. When we experience wounding in these early relationships, our response to the wounding is fleshed out and lived out by way of our perceptions.

We create our perceptions in response to our experiences. By its very nature, wounding fosters the development of our negative perceptions which can be likened to a darkened veil that invariably clouds our clarity. A silver lining is delicately wrapped in these experiences in that when we get triggered by someone with whom we are in relationship in the here and now, we have an opportunity to gain clarity and experience healing around a particular wounding that occurred for us earlier in life – if we are willing.

Why would we want to do this? Because until we are conscious of the wounding themes and have our feelings about what happened to us early on, we live in unconscious ways because the veils cloud our vision. We stay stuck in our illusions when we remain unaware of the wounding themes and their indeliable imprints that impact our lives so negatively.

We tend to stay stuck in the storylines and in the blame game because of the woundings we may carry around. Staying stuck in the storyline and in the blame game means that we are imprisoned amidst the many layers of our elaborate illusions. Living in the illusion may mean that we are actively looking for the proof of being right or the proof of being wrong, whether it pertains to ourself or others.

Getting out of the storylines and moving away from the blame game may feel really awkward because it may come as second nature given we have done it for so long. Moving underneath the story and the blame means that we may be willing and ready to look more deeply into our individual woundings we may carry.

When we are inspired to take a look behind the veils and disrupt their power over us, we make healing movements that are undeniable within. As we express our feelings about what has laid buried and dormant within us for decades, we create space within us for new beginnings.  In so doing, we free the part of us that projects our past onto those with whom we may want to be in relationship.

03 Dec This entry was published on December 3, 2015 at 3:46 PM and is filed under counseling, health, mental health, therapy, wellness. Bookmark the permalink. Follow any comments here with the RSS feed for this post.